That Sinking Feeling ...
This year has sucked from the start. Don't want to say it, but it is true for me. It's almost birthday time again too, and so much strife! Challenging to write when you're right in the middle f the storm but I do want to express what really happens - at least to me! Maybe I can help someone else, at least prevent them from falling down the well of life too.
Off antidepressants for about maybe two weeks now and it's NOT pretty how I feel or my thoughts. Did not go off med by choice, either. Doctors in NS are uhm, well ... I have had one bad experience after another with NS docs since coming back to this place. Detrimental to my health. As it stands, I do not even have a doctor presently; haven't for a few months after firing the incompetent one I had for 2-3 yrs. Met a new one who's personality seemed to go really well with my own, and who expressed that he'd possibly want to be my doc though he wasn't supposed to be taking new patients! He liked how I speak, and expressed myself on his voice mail, initially. Then my way of telling stories, with my comedic view always there despite the bad circumstances I convey of my experiences thus far. But it's not worked out. Why? Money! (Of course.) New doctor needs me to get my chart/file from old doc who had two offices - both claiming not to have file at first! Well, my old doc's 2nd office where I did not go to see him regulalry (only once actually) got to the bottom of where my chart was. Surprise - at the office cose to where I live, the walk-in-clinic where I used to see the doctor. I have to pay $30 CAN to have file transfered from them to the new doctor who would take me on as a new patient, only basicaly broke me doesn't really have $30 to spare, even to get a doctor. Now, what happened sorta as a sidebar to this ...New doc gave me 1 prescription of the antidepressants I had been taking for a few months - the pills the old jackass doc finally switched me to, after me asking to be put on something other than the pill I was talking on and off for several yrs, with different ones in between (if you follow). Thing is, 1. I haven't liked how new antiDs had me feeling though I gave them a chance to work. It would seem I need to try yet another pill, but hey, did not get THAT chance as yet, since new doctor did not return my phone calls or even re-new old prescription, not even to the pharmacy via phone. So, for the third or fourth(?) time in my life, I have had to go off antidepressants cold turkey!!! Doctor's wife/receptionist finally returned my call almost a week after the awful withdrawals had begun! At least I was only on this pill for a few months and not YEARS, AND was on the lowest dosage which makes the detoxing process less Helacious. Pharmacy (whom I kept checking with to see if new doc had called in prescription in response to my voice messages at his office) said I should already be through the worst of detox process and would be "okay" when a week had passed since I stopped taking the pills.
This latest experience with doctors has been off-putting, to say-the-least. When doctor's wife/receptionist called, she only called to say the doc WOULD NOT write me a prescription, nothing about he needed to see me at office again, first, or anything. It was sort of rude.
Now weeks later, I have no doctor, no medication, still have ringing in my ears from time to time everyday, and my balance is not always too good. The worst? Besides the feeling that the doctors don't actually care about you, as a human being? (And I REALLY LIKED the personality of the new doctor.) The feeling that they won't help you through a really rough spot unless you do what THEY TELL YOU and, no matter how, get your chart, money or no money, to them or you're simply INVISIBLE?! The worst of it is, I can feel deep dark depression creeping back ... Who is this that I am now? I don't feel like "me", and not only am I way on edge and fighting off the black thoughts that are surfacing in my head once more, with even less energy than I "normally" have had. But I am rendered extremely emotionally vulnerable now, after years of not being able to cry due to antiDs, It's all I can do but hold back a river of rain. What do I feel now besides sadness and great deep dispair? Anything? This is becoming scary ... I did want to see if I could go off depression meds again; see how the world was seeming. It was an idea. Now, so far, the forecast looks extremely grim ... With more dark storm clouds to come? Eeeeek!
There is still no peace where I live - crackhead/drugdealers are now gone from above my flat after 3-4 months there with their loud pounding over-head. (Police escorted them.) There are new people, again ..ALREADY, and they have an 8 year old who loves to run in the flat, plus cats, and a dog (which they are NOT supposed to have, living in that house)! It's a couple with the child, plus an older man living in the basemetn part of their flat, which borders mine!!! When he coughs sounds like he is in my place!!! I think he's the father of either the lady or her man. Plus, the 12 year old, freindly and bright girl from the flat at the very top of the 3-story house seems to suddenly have 6 friends who keep running through the yard and hang out near my one door/basement entrance. I still cannot concetrate or relax there.
So after a month or so, I am back at Mom's, though our last visit was pretty bad. I did stay too long, but I can't stand the thought of my place sometimes. There is no peace here, and the only reason I am able to write this blog right now, is because mom was out on chores today, walking around, which leaves her really tired when she gets back. She is sleeping in a sitting position on the sofa(her bed of choice), but - as usual - keeps awaking for short stints, until she'll awake for something sweet to eat and to complain about noise of my typing or the lights being on in the house, or to go to washroom, or to tell me to go to bed even though I only got up at 7:30pm, plus I'm over 40 and she may be Mother but is NOT THE BOSS OF ME. Not only is there not any peace here, with mom's chaotic ways, but the ever-increasing depression tells me that being here with her is not a good idea either, because, though she suffers from depression also, her memory issues or lack of compassion, or both, find her not too sympathetic to my plight at all; not sensitive to what I am now going through ...
There! She's suddenly awake again, and talking as if she had not been asleep at all. Starled me! The complaining and nagging will soon follow.
I HATE this! I just want to sing, write, act, maybe direct a short film and be around loving people who are respectful to me, have friends and positive reinforcement; to have a lover/romance, a career, or a job I can stand that pays SOME $$$, to move back to Toronto or try NYC finally, or even LA, or some other Big City ...!!!
I truly HATE my life now, it has become such a pile of shit and after much time of pondering it, I still don't know how I can fix it!
What is my life all about?!!!!